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当你感到绝望时

绝望中没有“ U”。应该没有“you”要么绝望,要么。

在字典中,我们发现绝望被定义为失去希望或对绝望投降。绝望的状态,导致轻率

Does any of this sound like anyone’s dating life that 您 know? Yeah?

让我们来谈谈它。

绝望约会

绝望的约会会导致错误的选择和随意的约会,通常会导致意想不到的,丑陋的和不想要的后果(所有后果都始于“您”)。

我们中有些人可能不会将我们的随意约会视为有害或绝望的约会。然而,由于后果的程度和深度,我们的基督徒咨询师,生活教练以及有爱心的朋友和家人都认为绝望或随意约会是非常有害的。

Let’s start by reviewing the above definitions of desperation and see if they apply to how 您 are dating or thinking about 您r singleness.

Ask 您rself:
• Have 您 lost hope that there are any good candidates within reach?
• How do 您 feel when 您 see happy couples interact romantically?
• Do 您 feel sentenced to live a life of lonely singleness?
• If 您 don’t have children yet, how’s that desire to have a child coming along?
• If 您 do have children, what have 您 exposed them to in 您r quest to be in a romantic relationship?
• In the past, what good things have 您 given up so 您 could date?
• How long did it take 您 to get out 您r last relationship, and what made it finally end?
• What good things are 您 willing to give up to date and be married?
• What do 您r responses tell 您 about 您r level of desperateness to be in a relationship?
• Are 您 starting to see any connections between feeling desperate and making unwise romantic choices?

故意约会

在确定耶稣是谁之后,决定我们要嫁给谁是我们可以做出的最重要的决定。我们所有人中,除了更多的耶稣以外,我们绝不能为任何事情而绝望。他是和平,爱,喜悦,稳定和力量所在的地方。

在几分钟,几天,几个月,甚至几年的关注和愉悦中,我们不能放弃自己的尊严和价值,而忽略我们的命运。浪费我们的精神,粉碎我们的心,浪费我们的身体,清空我们的钱包,浪费我们的时间追逐魔鬼的空虚承诺是不值得的…耶和华一直在努力使我们为他的荣耀做好准备。

我们不需要绝望。

相信上帝

We may not like where we are socially and romantically, and that’s okay. He gives us permission to not like everything that’s in our lives, but He does want us to trust Him. How much do 您 trust Him?

不要在绝望中迷路;相信上帝,并继续相信我。 –约翰福音14:1

有时候,我们感到自己坐在上帝的手中,而上帝正在他人的生活中做着奇妙的事情。当上帝祝福别人时,您能为别人真正感到高兴吗?在一个令人难以置信的超长季节里,您是否能学会主动地信任上帝并感到满足?

我已经学会了如何在自己处于任何状态时都感到满足(满足于不受打扰或不安的程度)。我知道如何沦为基础,在谦卑的环境中谦卑地生活,我也知道如何享受充裕的生活和丰富的生活。在任何情况下,我都学到了面对每一种情况的秘密,无论是饱食还是饥饿,有足够的能力,有足够的余地,可以自由生活,也可以没有饥饿。 –腓立比书4:11-12

Christ’s single, who did 您 let steal 您r hope? Was it 您r ex, an unkind family member or the last person who married someone 您 were in love with and hoped to snag?

让您作为上帝的王子或公主的身份能够说出自己的人生,而不是为了产生应有的心态,而是要磨练坚强的勇士精神,愿意与敌人的一切谎言和分散注意力作斗争。坚定地将希望寄托在魔鬼的手中。以弗所书6:10-18)

Let the Spirit of God teach 您 personally not to be desperate, but to walk in dignity, boundaries and strength. You will start seeing different results in 您r life.

您可能不会马上结婚,但至少您会进一步发展自己的性格品质’我需要维持这种深厚的关系。这将保持U-和“you”-出于绝望。

关于格伦达戈登

Glenda Gordon, MSW, has had a lifelong ministry to single Christians. Whether as an activities coordinator, church counselor, or workshop facilitator, she loves to serve and teach Christian singles. When she’s not in church, she's busy writing and doing photography, getting outdoors into nature, reading real books, traveling, baking, dancing, and eating out with friends. She writes a weekly blog for single Christians called, “For Single Christians: One is a Whole Number.” http://glendablogz.com
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