你有一个“love radar,” and the people you attract into your life are not by accident. If you are anything like me, then your 爱雷达 may need a “tune-up” along the way.
我没有意识到的是“love radar”被定为“花哨的送礼者”，而我正在吸引参加者。我不必担心会陪伴生活。但是约会中缺乏这种陪伴，而我的雷达被设定为“low quality.”
Late at night, I would push my face into my pillow, cry out to God and ask “Why me?” or “God, will you ever bring me my true love?” Then I would get up the next morning only to face another disappointment. My 爱雷达 was out of order!
After much reflection and some deep prayer time with God, I realized I wasn’t attracting better men because I didn’t feel like I deserved better men. My 爱雷达 was malfunctioning; since I had low self-esteem, I was attracting men who were my emotional equals. In other words, I set my value at a low quality so I attracted people who treated me poorly.
I committed to a tune-up on my 爱雷达 and directly tackled the patterns of attraction that I had going on in my life. As a result, I soon discovered I was dazzled by the allure of bad boys; I thought I could earn their love by turning them into nice guys who treated me well. Instead, with my 爱雷达 out of balance, I was getting used as well as manipulated along the way.
My true love did arrive and, after 13 years of marriage as well as three children, I thank God every day for these blessings. I am also very grateful for the major life-altering lesson of doing a tune-up on my 爱雷达.