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是时候调整您的爱雷达了吗?

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你有一个“love radar,” and the people you attract into your life are not by accident. If you are anything like me, then your 爱雷达 may need a “tune-up” along the way.

我心中有一个激动人心的时间表,我想结婚并在三十岁的时候开始一个家庭。

在我二十多岁的时候,当我环顾四周时,我的恐慌开始响起。其实我的“love radar”(告诉我被吸引的人)发生了重大故障,并且我吸引了各种各样的人,他们要么将我视为银行帐户,要么将其视为个人理疗师。这些人需要一些东西,我竭尽全力去帮助他们。

我没有意识到的是“love radar”被定为“花哨的送礼者”,而我正在吸引参加者。我不必担心会陪伴生活。但是约会中缺乏这种陪伴,而我的雷达被设定为“low quality.”

Late at night, I would push my face into my pillow, cry out to God and ask “Why me?” or “God, will you ever bring me my true love?” Then I would get up the next morning only to face another disappointment. My 爱雷达 was out of order!

在绊倒整个爱情故事的同时,有一天我和父亲交谈,父亲父亲说话敏捷,性格直率。他对我说:“凯茜,你在找岩石下的人。”我脆弱的自尊心被摧毁了。他是什么意思,我在找岩石下的人?

After much reflection and some deep prayer time with God, I realized I wasn’t attracting better men because I didn’t feel like I deserved better men. My 爱雷达 was malfunctioning; since I had low self-esteem, I was attracting men who were my emotional equals. In other words, I set my value at a low quality so I attracted people who treated me poorly.

I committed to a tune-up on my 爱雷达 and directly tackled the patterns of attraction that I had going on in my life. As a result, I soon discovered I was dazzled by the allure of bad boys; I thought I could earn their love by turning them into nice guys who treated me well. Instead, with my 爱雷达 out of balance, I was getting used as well as manipulated along the way.  

为了改变这些模式,我开始努力工作,并再次找到自己的价值。随着我自尊心的增强,人们对待我的方式也发生了变化。实际上,我以高品质设置自己的价值,并坚持要受到尊重,因为我一直在努力寻找自己应得的好东西。

随着时间的流逝,人们开始认识我。突然之间,好男人出现在我的情感世界中。我不再对好家伙感到厌倦;相反,不健康的坏男孩没有吸引力。上帝正在改变我的心,并为我一生的爱做好准备。

My true love did arrive and, after 13 years of marriage as well as three children, I thank God every day for these blessings. I am also very grateful for  the major life-altering lesson of doing a tune-up on my 爱雷达.

关于凯茜·帕特森·斯特林

凯茜·帕特森·斯特林(凯茜·帕特森·斯特林)是基督教辅导员,其辅导部门为“真实生活工具箱”。她是作家,演讲者,妻子,母亲和朋友。通过她的咨询部,她提供了50多个电子学习音频播放课程,以帮助人们增强信仰并建立最健康的关系。她非常热衷于帮助人们摆脱恐惧或其他情感堡垒的束缚,而这些恐惧或情感堡垒使他们无法在上帝的人生计划中发挥最大的潜力。
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